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I Can't Sing Myth Debunked: 3 Reasons You May Struggle with Singing and their Solutions

I Can't Sing Myth Debunked: 3 Reasons You May Struggle with Singing and their Solutions
As a voice teacher, I frequently encounter students or the general public who believe they can't sing for various reasons. It's a common misconception that some people are simply born with the ability to sing while others are not. In reality, singing is a skill that can be learned and developed with the right guidance and practice. Let's explore three common reasons people maybe "can't sing" and some practical solutions to help overcome them!

  1. The song is too low: One of the most frequent reasons I hear people struggle to sing a song is because the recording they are singing with (or they themselves) start singing the song too low. This leads to them not being able to sing the notes accurately because their voice cannot hit those low notes -- this is especially true for children whose voices have not changed yet. I see this allll the time in church kids choirs where the director has picked music that is for adults without taking into account the melody's range for the children's singing needs.
    Solution: If you find yourself struggling with a song that feels too low, consider transposing it to a higher key that better suits your voice (aka start singing higher! I gave an audio example here). Experiment with different keys until you find one that allows you to sing comfortably without strain. Additionally you can work with a voice teacher (like me!) to increase your range and work on other techniques that will help you sing lower notes if that's a desired skill.

  2. You aren't using enough air/breath: Breath support is the foundation of good singing technique, yet many beginners underestimate its importance. Insufficient breath support can lead to weak, airy vocals, pitch instability, and an inability to sustain notes effectively. Without proper breath control, even the most talented singers can struggle to reach their full potential.
    Solution: Focus on developing strong breath support by practicing diaphragmatic breathing exercises regularly. Imagine filling your lower lungs with air as you inhale deeply like through a straw, allowing your lungs to descend and expand. Practice exhaling slowly and steadily (like on an "s" sound), maintaining control over your airflow throughout each phrase. Incorporate breath support exercises into your daily vocal warm-up routine to strengthen your diaphragm and improve your vocal stamina.

  3. You need to use your ears just as much as your voice: Singing isn't just about producing sound; it's also about listening and adjusting in real-time to stay on pitch and maintain vocal consistency, especially if you're singing with a recording or track or other singers. Many aspiring singers neglect the importance of active listening and rely solely on muscle memory or visual cues, leading to inaccuracies and inconsistencies in their performances.
    Solution: Train your ear by practicing pitch-matching exercises and listening to a variety of music genres attentively. Pay close attention to pitch, tone, and phrasing, and strive to replicate what you hear accurately. Sing along with recordings of professional singers, focusing on matching their pitch and expression. Over time, your ear will become more attuned to nuances in pitch and tone, allowing you to sing with greater accuracy and confidence.
The belief that "I can't sing" is often rooted in misconceptions and technical challenges that can be addressed with the right approach and guidance (and a kind teacher!). By transposing songs to suit your voice, developing strong breath support, and training your ear through active listening, you can unlock your true potential as a singer and enjoy the transformative power of music. So, don't let self-doubt hold you back — embrace the journey of vocal exploration and discover the joy of expressing yourself through song! It starts with belief and skill will follow.

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A Quick Tutorial on Teaching Sight Singing & Ear Training in as Little as 5 Minutes Per Day

A Quick Tutorial on Teaching Sight Singing & Ear Training in as Little as 5 Minutes Per Day
Sight Singing and Ear Training are fundamental skills in music education. Most colleges teach it over the course of a few different classes, and many people view it as skills you can't teach until middle school or later... but I love teaching these skills to students as young as 2nd grade (who are already tuneful, beatful, and artful!) in as little as 5 minutes per day. It can be done well and creatively so that students experience it in a joyful, fun way.

Sight singing is the ability to read and sing a piece of music at first sight without having heard it before. It involves translating the written musical notation into vocal sounds. This ideally is done AFTER having some foundational skills built first, namely ear training skills.

Skills Involved:
  1. Note Recognition: The ability to identify and sing the correct pitches indicated in the musical score.
  2. Rhythm Recognition: Being able to interpret and execute the rhythm of a piece accurately.
  3. Interval Recognition: Recognizing the distance between two pitches, which helps in accurately reproducing melodies.
  4. Key and Scale Recognition: Understanding the key signature and scale of a piece, which guides the performer on which notes to sing.
  5. Phrasing and Articulation: Interpreting the musical notation to convey musical expression, including dynamics, tempo, and articulation.

Ear training, also known as aural skills, involves developing the ability to identify and reproduce musical elements solely by hearing them. This includes melody, harmony, rhythm, and timbre. My goal is always to develop the musical ear before the musical eye.

Skills Involved:
  1. Pitch Recognition: Identifying individual pitches and intervals between them.
  2. Melodic Dictation: Hearing a melody and writing it down in musical notation.
  3. Harmonic Analysis: Recognizing and identifying chords and chord progressions in a musical piece.
  4. Rhythmic Dictation: Hearing a rhythm and notating it accurately.
  5. Chord Progression Recognition: Identifying the sequence of chords in a piece of music.
  6. Transcription: Listening to a piece of music and notating it in sheet music form.
Both ear training and sight singing are essential for any musician who wants to perform, compose, or arrange music. It enables musicians to effectively communicate and collaborate with others. Musicians with strong sight singing and ear training skills can adapt to various musical styles and genres. These skills empower musicians to improvise and create their own music. It hones the ability to critically analyze and appreciate music. Both sight singing and ear training are skills that can be developed and honed through consistent practice and training. They are vital components of a well-rounded musical education.

Conversational Solfege is a system of 12 steps that addresses these needs first by ear and then adding the eye and symbols to it to develop a person's musical mind and musical thinking in a playful, creative way!

To learn more about Conversational Solfege, check it out here. And here are the flash cards I use that go with the CS units. I'm happy to chat more about CS as well, it's a passion of mine to use this well-created resource to help develop young musicians.



This is my health story

 

I have always been sensitive. That's a word that has described me, my body in particular, my whole life. I have skin sensitivities to fabrics, bruise easily, I get cold easily, I tend to be on "alert" all of the time (no coffee needed here!), I'm a musician and very creative, and I don't even THINK about using any conventional personal care or other products that are scented... they bother my skin, and they bother my respiratory system too. I've never been able to use any scented products because of the discomfort and increased sensitivity they cause. I can't be around people who wear perfume or scented deodorant, because I can't breathe well and my head has discomfort. I can't go into a public bathroom that has been just cleaned because of the toxic chemicals they used to clean it. I can't enjoy candles or most lotions or makeup like most women I know because I'm sensitive to it.

During my first semester of college, I started to develop debilitating discomfort in my jaw, which I was later told is TMJD or temporomandibular joint dysfunction, not just the kind of little twinge when you bite down on something too hard, but long-lasting aching, along with clicking and cracking. It was exacerbated by singing, gum-chewing, caffeine, and other things, and I was easily able to cut out all of the things listed on my doctor's list except for one -- singing. I was a vocal music education major, and singing was my livelihood (or at least soon-to-be), so I couldn't just not practice! I struggled so hard for 2.5 years through long choir rehearsals, voice lessons, practice sessions, and more. By the end of the day, it would be so bad that I'd almost be in tears. My roommates and boyfriend (and his roommates!), bless their servant hearts, would bring me freezing cold ice packs to numb my face enough so that I could fall asleep at least, though I would wake up in the night unable to fall back asleep due to other sleep issues I also was dealing with.

It seemed like a vicious cycle that I needed to stop. Maybe I needed to change majors and give up my dream of making music, of teaching others to make music too. Maybe I needed to pick something that didn't require so much singing and talking. Even smiling a lot bothered me, so maybe I needed to pick a major or job with less human interaction. But THAT idea broke my heart. I didn't enjoy any of the things I could think of! My boyfriend at the time (now husband!) and I had many conversations about what I should do... singing was part of the fabric of my BEING. I am MADE to sing. If you know me, you know that hardly an hour went by without me humming or singing some little tune. But my jaw bothered me so much most of the time that I needed to change SOMETHING. But what?

And that's when change came...

I found some natural and pretty simple solutions -- though simple doesn't always mean easy! It required a LOT of discipline and self-control on my part.

I'm blessed now to have so many versatile tools in my tool box for any emotion, body system, or issue I may be experiencing. So, where am I now? Healthier than I’ve EVER been. I have NO jaw issues anymore when I keep up my self-created protocol. I sleep through the night. I feel so much better now that I'm sleeping more and deeper. I've spent 4 years now working through the emotional issues I faced in early career, and I am so happy that I can now FEEL emotions without feeling completely run-over and frozen by emotions. I’m also happy to say that I have only had little illnesses since finding solutions, not the constant strep throat and other illnesses I was getting at least once per month before! And, that’s saying a lot as I was constantly around germs while working full time with 500+ elementary students. But once I started supporting my immune system, I stopped getting sick every couple of weeks. I can clean with the most amazing smelling cleaner without coughing. I can wear my own homemade "perfume" and get compliments, and not only does it smell good, it supports my body systems. I can use amazing smelling shampoo now! I can have twice as much energy for the day without drinking any coffee or sugary drink. When I started having these successes, I was at first in disbelief, and now in awe at all that God's created, I believe, and given us for our good. Now these are my first line of defense, my go-tos, the first thing I do when something is off, which is not very often anymore (usually just when the weather changes, ah MN life).


I look forward to living a beautiful life of freedom and feeling empowered every single day, enjoying the life I was meant to live. That life includes sharing my story of overcoming and helping you also find better, safer solutions to overcome your daily struggles.

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